Myths of Divorce

Irrespective of the reasons that have led to a particular wedding taking place, it is ultimately a fruit that has to be nurtured by the two individuals themselves. In this context, the family or the tribe, which is the society in general, may not be able to help the couple.

Divorce

If the two married people are able to get along with each other then there is nothing like that. They have to simply realise that their marriage is a shared union in which they are both equal partners. As long as this very basic premise of marriage is respected everything should fall in place.

However problems can arise if one of the two partners tries to assert his or her own self in an unacceptable way. This can lead to marital discord and if things are not cleared in due time, this discord can lead to a possible separation of the two individuals, leading to divorce.

A divorce can be sought by either one of the two marriage partners and it can be granted only by the duly appointed courts of law. There can be several grounds for seeking and eventual grant of divorce, contested or otherwise, to a couple. There are, however a number of fallacies in the context of divorce and its aftermath.

Fallacies Regarding Divorce

It is a widespread belief that women suffer more emotional damage from divorce than men. The main reason behind this might be the vulnerability of the women kind as opposed to men. However this vulnerability is more in relation to the physique than emotions.

It has to be underscored here that there is a great deal of difference between the physical and emotional aspects. It is not only possible but is a widely placed truth that women can be easily stronger than men in emotional aspects.

Men are taken to be the stronger sex, yet they are as prone to emotional trauma as women. The fact of the matter is that women can easily find solace and succour from family and friends. In the case of men, however, they are expected to bear all with fortitude.

The point is that it is unlikely that women suffer more than men in the eventuality of a divorce. It is simply mens handling of the situation and self in the given context is different from that of women and it appears as if they are less affected.

Men can be as soft hearted as the women. They simply have a tendency to follow the role model of a strong and aloof nature. This is what gives rise to the fallacy in context. A divorce can be as painful and traumatic for a man as a woman.

Another common fallacy is that ex spouses are always hostile and angry with each other. This statement may be true in general for those couples who have gone through a long stretched hostile and contested divorce.

In such cases there is bound to be a lot of distrust and acrimony. In these kinds of scenarios the two individuals may have had to wash dirty linen in public. There may have been disclosures that are of embarrassing nature to either one or both partners.

The divorce process itself may have been hotly contested and a lot of bad blood may have been spilled on both sides. In such a situation as this, it is but natural for there to be a lot of anger and hostility between both partners.

However this is not always the case. When there is a situation where both partners have decided to go in for divorce with mutual agreement and understanding, there is unlikely to be anger and hostility to the same extent. Especially where the children are involved, there may even be a great amount of understanding.

One more fallacy is that after divorce, men are eager to remarry while women are not so keen. As has already been stated the strengths of both the partners are generally similar on the emotional plane. Both the partners undergo the same kind of trials and tribulations.

Thus it is that when it comes to remarrying, then too they are in the same boat. Though some studies have shown that more men, as compared to women, remarry within two years of divorce, yet this is unlikely to be a benchmark.